Moving Beyond White Fragility

Real talk about race, for those who are really ready

Hello, I am Nanette…

I facilitate live and online workshops geared toward white audiences on thinking about race in ways that produce real change.

Today Americans are restless for a more nuanced engagement with the subject of race, but are struggling with how and where to begin. Right and wrong have no real utility in these conversations, and guilt atrophies bona fide forward accomplishment. Still, I believe we are way past holding hands singing Kumbaya together as a present-day strategy to wholeness.

A need exists for both unity and cool heads, balanced with some brutal truths about our historic disregard for people who are not white. All my presentations come from within that sweet spot between the desire of our warm hearts, and the grisliness of our fully fleshed-out history.

Thank you for visiting my website. After you’ve perused a few essays and videos, contact me about leading a workshop in your community that makes a real difference.




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Moving BEYOND White Fragility: Honest, Effective Conversations About Race

Moving BEYOND White Fragility: Honest, Effective Conversations About Race

Date October 6, 2021Time 6:00 pm - 9:00 pm America/New_YorkVenue Burchfield Penney Art Center Location 1300 Elmwood Avenue Buffalo, NY 14222 United States Organizer Nanette D. Massey

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What people are saying

To be succinct: through her presentational skills and style, she has made this white male feel challenged and more enlightened, while not threatened or shamed. That’s not easy! I attended her workshop at Unitarian Universalist Church in Buffalo (May, 2018?), and we have more informal conversations as well.         

Father J Weiksnar

I attended Ms. Massey’s workshop in Williamsville in Spring 2019. With humor, compassion and grace, Ms. Massey was able to call white people in to the table of difficult conversations about race. She provided concrete examples of how the white perspective is often so very blind to the everyday minor and major challenges faced by African-Americans in America, and she called on us to challenge our own culturally conditioned assumptions about race, class, education and more…I would recommend her workshops to any groups looking to deepen their self-reflective journeys of anti-racism, regardless of how far along they are on that path.                                                          Heather Hartel

I had the privilege of attending Ms. Massey’s first presentation using the book White Fragility. It was an excellent experience that allowed white people, like me, to face our latent racism without shaming or insult, but with a desire to address the reality and change it. Nanette has a unique talent of making people feel at ease while addressing very difficult issues. Her presence is engaging and compassionate without being apologetic or excusing inappropriate comments. She helps us really examine our responses and feelings. I highly recommend her workshops for any organization that wants to address issues around race and have meaningful dialogue. Thank you, Nanette, for helping us grow!

Pastor Bill

I attended a white privilege workshop led by Nanette on 5/18/19. Her grace with dealing with a white audience at various stages of its journey into deeper self discovery about racism in our country was stunning.

Nanette spoke from her heart, sharing personal experiences. She was then able to contextualize them into a framework that hit me over the head like the proverbial two-by-four. Before long, I was able to start understanding how a white person’s friendship (and statements) might be viewed radically differently by a person of color, who is on the receiving end.

Richard Glaser

Nanette’s talk… was an eye-opening education in the depth and immensity of the burden Black people carry 24/7 in our society and in the direct impact of embedded racism on their life chances. It was enlightening for those in the white community who have actively worked to reduce racism for decades and those who think it is largely a problem of the past. Her request that we all look inside ourselves and evaluate our knowledge of racism’s impacts, and into our daily lives for the conversation opportunities we have to challenge subtle or status quo maintaining positions was most welcome.

Thomas Casey